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29 Nov 2004

I'm a professional woman in my late 40's--i,m at the top level in the Banking Industry--and also a fitness fanatic. i have a beautifull body ( 34 D ) and weigh 51 KG's. I have always been looking very well after myself, but i have to state one thing very clearly and that is that i dont have an "air " around me and think i'm a gift to people .

Recently a man much younger than me started working in our Head Office and i have noticed that he watches me very closely. He himself is also a fitness fanatic and happens to Gym at the same Gym as myself. He is extremely well built.

This morning he walked up to me and said that he wanted to say something very personally to me and asked if i would mind and i said not at all, go ahead. He then said that i'm very sexy to him, he adores my bust and finds it extremely hard not to look at them and would i mind to go dinner with him. I was shocked, firstly because he was so honest to me and secondly because i am 15 years his senior.

I must also be honest--I watch him in the Gym and to see his mussels pump, makes me so horney that i masturbate every night with him in my mind.

Should i say YES or is it a very bad idea ? What worries me the most is that i'm so much older than him, we work together, i'm his senior and lastly, if he invites me to his apartment, i would not be able to resist, i know that.
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01 Jan 0001

Hi Cofused,
Interesting nickname, sounds like codependency gone a bit to far ? Age diferences can make a relationship more difficult, but can be overcome, and mental / social age is far more important than chronilogical age. But relations between people who work together, especially where one is senior and the other junior, almost always lead to complications and grief. And a relationship based purely on sexual lust is in immediate problems whenever the lust cools off, as it always does.
On these grounds alone, this potential relationship sounds like a really bad idea, as well as probably officially consituting sexual harrassment at work. And if you accept any relationship with him other than purely business, what's to stop him from using you, and even blackmailing you by threatening to complain that HE was harrassed, and not you, and claiming that you used your senior position to push him into something he didnt want ?
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