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22 Jul 2008

Detached for making love
Dear Fertility Expert

Your opinion please!

I have been battling to fall pregnant for 4 years. I have had one successful twin pregnancy through the GIFT process, we lost the babies at 14 weeks.

2x failed IVF / ICSI

2x failed donor eggs

The last procedure was in April. However I find that I am emotionally and sexually withdrawn from making love to my husband. In fact I can' t bare him to try and be intimate with me.

Is this a nromal reaction. I have been incredibly emotional about this, but can' t seem to talk about it. Although I have a very understanding and supportive husband I know that he is fearing the worst.

We are both not ' young'  anymore - both in our 40' s!

I am not only sad for him but sad for me too. Making love has always been special for me with him, but making love to me now just seems to close to trying to be pregnant or getting pregnant.

I really would appreciate a response from you and perhaps any suggestions.

Many thanks and best regards.

Min
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Mins

Unfortunately this is a rather common cause of events particularly after several failed assisted reproductive procedures. Apart from the usual advice as to seek counselling I would suggest that you continue exploring avenues for conception and do not take on a defeatist approach as this will only compound the problem further. In my experience, a successful pregnancy usually restores the situation to normal.



Answered by: Dr.M.I. Cassim
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