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02 Dec 2005

Anal sex
Hi Ladies,

Do you & your partners also do anal sex? My gf loves it, yet I cant seem to get the dildo in there as she says it is too painfull, I use allot of lube so not sure how else, id really like to use other things than my fingers? Any advice?
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Lover and welcome to our forum. Your post should possibly be addressed to the Sexology forum.

Anal sex is enjoyed by everyone - men and women, gay and straight.

Two points: 1) The dildo may be a bit large or 'intimidating' for your partner, and 2) the missing ingredient could be relaxation. In order to accept anal penetration comfortably your partner's inner sphincter muscle will need to be relaxed. This will require that she feels psychologically relaxed as well. She may feel more relaxed and confident knowing that she is thoroughly clean (having douched and showered) and you need to spend more time in preparing her anus for penetration through gentle teasing and foreplay, and constantly reassuring her to keep her feeling psychologically comfortable.

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