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19 Jul 2005

I am married for 2yrs and recently I have been fantacising about having sex with a women, I do love my husband and he is absolutely great in bed, but I just want to experience it, why could this be.......
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Distresses and thanks for posting your question,

It is entirely normal for heterosexual people to have fantasies that include erotic content related to someone (or people) of the same sex. Likewise, many gay people sometimes have fantasies about straight people.

You mention that your husband is great in bed... it is possible that your very satisfying sex-life with him is making you more aware of your own sexuality - making you increasingly aware of your own desires and opening you up to exploring yourself as a sexual being. Which is great for you.

Having fantasies about someone of the same sex is fine and doesn't make you bisexual. Enjoy your fantasies, develop them (you mention that they commenced recently) and see where they take you. Most importantly, don't feel guilty about your fantasies.

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