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22 Jul 2005

Hi I have always wondered if in a gay relationship the same person penetrates all the time or do gay men also reverse these roles? Give and take?
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01 Jan 0001

Hi Yvonne

Thanks for the question - something which many straight people wonder about.

Firstly, not all gay people have penetrative sex. There are countless variations of sexual expression, and it is a myth that all gay men engage in anal sex. Also, penetrative sex is not always penile - it can be digital (fingers) or with sex toys, for example.

Many gay people who engage in anal sex have a preference for being either 'top' (penetrating) or 'bottom' (penetrated), but most are versatile in this regard. In some relationships these roles are shared to a varying degree, whilst in others the roles can be set.

I hope this answers your question.
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