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31 Jul 2008

Extremely scared

I am totally scared well, you know what i wanted to put in there, i have made a decision to talk to my parents this weekend about my sexuality, well basically to come out... its something that i have posted about previously and you know that i have been strugling with it for a while, especially when my parents ask me if i am gay or not... so now i have decided to stop living a lie... i am just scared that something will happen to my parents, because i know what my mothers reaction will be, i know how to handle her, but even if it means losing my family, which is sure to happen, than living a lie anymore...

Wish me luck and i will be back here over the weekend to tell you how it went...

Love and hugs
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi as always Apache_Boy and thanks for posting.

If I recall correctly your mother already suspects that you may be gay but she's quite anti, right? Sometimes it can be more intimidating coming out to both parents, so you may want to choose to have that chat with your dad first, before you tell your mom. If they say that you need to go see a therapist, I suggest you go along with this as opposed to engaging them in an argument - what happens is that the therapist very quickly declares you OK but then focuses on helping your parents accept the fact that they have a gay son. Don't resist if they want you to see a shrink, it'll simply make things easier for you.

Good luck mister and please keep us posted.
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