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14 Dec 2005

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hi everybody im 15 just amited to my self that im am gay i just need some helpi havent told anybody about me should i help me please
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi etw and welcome to our forum.

Some of us realise that we're gay from a very early age - often, with hindsight, people say they knew they were gay from as young as 10 - while others only come out to themselves in their adult years. Realising that you're gay - being romantically and sexually attracted to people of the same sex, as opposed to the opposite sex - is the first part of a process that entails accepting that you can't abide by the heterosexist definition of 'normal', and claiming your sexual identity by coming out to other people.

This can take several years, and there's no need to rush. There's no reason why you need to come out to your family or friends yet, unless you're relatively sure of being accepted. If you fear a negative or hostile response from your parents it could be unwise for you to come out to them at this stage. However, it would be good if you could come out to at least one other person - maybe a close friend who you trust to respect your privacy. Don't allow your being gay to detract from your emphasis on school, or other areas of your life.

You're also welcome to post questions to the Teen Expert here on, and please keep us posted on how you're doing. If you’re in or near Cape Town you can join Triangle Project’s gay and bisexual youth support group, GABYS. Call (021) 448 3812 for more information.

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