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16 Jul 2008

How to accept a gay child
Hi, how do a parent accept a gay child ? How do you react and what do you say and do after absorbing this news or rather will I ever absorb it? It is totally depressing and after all its my only daughter. I am devasted. She is my child and I love her.
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Shocked, welcome to the forum and thanks for posting. You were obviously not expecting this and as such it came as a shock to you. Great advice from Ferny (and please also read Ferny's article - click above the forum on the link to our articles), and I think you need to go easy on yourself for a while. Read up as much as you can, learn as much as you can. Most importantly, you haven't failed as a parent, your daughter didn't choose to be gay, she's not going to change and as a loving mom you'll want her to be happy and true to herself.

Contact Triangle Project (telephone 021 448 3812) to request a booklet for parents dealing with a child being gay. You may even be able to download it from their website (

Please keep posting and tell us how you're doing.
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