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08 Mar 2007

How to help him get over his ex
I met one of the sweetest guys about 3months ago. I usually took this train but he (lets call him H) only started taking the train in round about Nov last year. Even before he started taking the train I would find myself checking out guys and then find myself thinking "wow, he's nice" etc etc. Anyway..I've always been straight to all my friends but since I started seeing H on the train I've been getting very weird emotional feelings. For me being a Rugby player and a huge guy it's not always easy to get intouch with ones emotional side and I found it quite confusing at first. Now that I started speaking to him (he told me bout this awesome site - as he put it) and that there's alwayas a lot of info on here. So here's the deal. I like him, I AM GAY and I told my mom that I am interested in a guy on a more personal level. ironicly our parents (or in my case, our moms) handled the situation the same way. She cool with it and cant wait to meet him.
Here's the problem though. He's been with a guy for almost 5-6 years on and off. He's really broken over this guy and I am very sorry for him. Seeing him some days in the train staring into nothingness really gets one down. I want to know how can I make him forget his ex? The ex is gone, he cant come between us because he's far away. I dont want to presure him but I just want to let him know that when he sits there with the camels bobbing up and down in his hand - I know he's thinking bout his ex. But please Booooooogie...Give me a go. I sit and think about you all the time on the train. I'll treat you like gold and shower you with silver. You a gorgeous guy and you got the most beautifull smile ever!

I hope that you read this and that i can expect a reply.
Ciao Gareth
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01 Jan 0001

Hi Worth-It, welcome to the forum and thanks for this post.

Sadly you can't 'make' someone get over someone else - your friend from the train will need to mourn his loss in his own way and at his own pace. It sounds as if you're already creating a sense of a 'relationship' between you which is beautifully romantic but you need to earth yourself in reality.

I notice that H's ex partner has responded to you and it appears as though he has no intention of obstructing your developing a relationship with H. And H has responded today as well (see his original post); sadly, he intends going overseas but the field is open to your developing a great friendship before he leaves.

The most important person in this scenario is you - take care of your own feelings.

Anon you may want to lay off the chems for a while but Nikki raises an interesting point: how do we feel about the word "queen"? I personally think it depends on who's using the word..... how do others feel about this?
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