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08 Mar 2007

I did it...

I have done it... I came clean. And now, it is over.

The good thing is, we have decided to remain friends, best friends. I will always be there for her, to comfort her and be a shoulder to cry on, but she has made peace with the fact that I am gay and that I have not been very loyal to her. She is hurt, very much so, and I even think there is some bitterness and hate, but she is really trying hard to work with it and heal it. She is seeing the therapist saturday (the same one I've been seeing), and I suppose that she will tell him what happened, and maybe he can help her heal, make her stronger, more independant, have more love for herself, get over it. He could maybe help ro make her a much stronger person than I could. And I know that she has the potential to be a wonderful, strong, independant woman. I saw that again in her last night. There are still a few practicalities that we have to sort out, but I've shed most of this burden on my shoulders... I am still walking this road, taking each day one by one. There are more mountains and deep rivers to cross, but I will deal with those when I get there. Knowing that she will be there for me, supporting me, will also make it easier for me to get accross these rivers.

Thanks to everyone who has given me great advice. I will still rely on you guys to help me, but I think the worst is out of the way, and now the road to self acceptance becomes easier...
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi again Steve and thanks for the post and update... and well done on coming clean :) I applaud your courage.

Please keep posting.
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