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28 Nov 2005

I,m confused with my sexual orientation?
I'm a male aged 21.It's been over a year trying to ignore my interest in looking at mens behind,thinking that it's temporary.At times I would be attracted to men(some of which are my friends, but I'vent told them as yet) sexually and sometimes just romantically and I would occationally dream having sex with a man.

At the moment I'm confused as to whether this is conclusive that I may be gay?

When I was between 5-10 years I used to play with dolls and I preferd the company of girls but as time went by I enjoyed the company of guys sometimes it would be sexualy but mostly it was on a friendship level.Could my past have a bearing at this?

where can I go to find out more information about this?
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Hope and welcome to our forum.

Playing with dolls or having a preference for girls when you're a child doesn't make you gay. Childhood sexual experimentation - with either boys or girls - is normal.

You describe being sexually and romantically attracted to men - indicating that you may indeed be gay if you're not similarly attracted to women. It is possible that you're in a process of 'coming out', which entails coming to terms with and accepting yourself as gay. A later part of this process would involve coming out to other people.

But you use the word 'conclusive' - nothing is conclusive, including human sexuality and I suggest you simply remain true to your feelings and explore where this takes you in terms of your desires and fantasies. You'll know soon enough whether you're straight or gay, or possibly even bisexual.

Call Triangle Project on (021) 448 3812 and ask them to post you a copy of the booklet, "Girls and girls, boys and boys" - it contains very useful information about coming out.

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