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07 Aug 2007

Letting go
dont know where else to put this down...

a long time ago i fell for a friend, we dated for a brief,very brief time..when circumstances pulled her away from me...i never stopped thinking about her..but did not see her for a few years, then she was back in my life, but with someone else, i just wanted her to be happy, and i was and still am (i think) in a long term relationship, but my feelings never wavered, i resigned myself to the fact that this is real life and even though recently she has told me that she has feelings for me, i have convinced myself that i am not good enough to fight for a chance, she has broken up with her partner, and through craziness on my part i have broken her heart again, when that was and is the last thing that i ever want in my life.....

i need to forget her, that is what my head is telling me, i need to forget and try salvage the relationship that i am in...its hurting so bad because my heart is telling me different things..

i dont have the guts to follow my heart

i dont know how to stop the feelings, maybe to be honest i dont want them to stop, because something deep inside me knows that i should be taking the chance, cause i am not happy where i am now even though i am working really hard on making things fine...

but it feels as though i made a mistake in the past and now i should resign myself to sticking it out
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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Brave_Crazy and thanks for posting here.

It sounds as if neither you nr your ex have resolved the break-up of your relationship. Maybe you need to revisit the factors that caused the relationship to end - and ask yourself what has changed.

You would probably benefit from a few sessions of counselling to help you get clarity on this situation.
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