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24 Nov 2005

my boyfriend left for London
Hi! This is probibly a question that cant be answerd...but it helps to hear some advice.

I've been with this guy for a year and six months...2 weeks ago he left for England for a year. We have a very honest relationship and the communication is great. Thats why we decided together that we are each alowed to be free untill we meet again. So, in other words when we see eachother we are a couple and when we dont were not. So, its kinda like a long distance open relationship....

However I've spoken to so many people that did the exact same thing and it didnt work out in the long run. I REALLY love this guy and I know he loves me, how do we keep "time' from changeing things? It feels like he is gone forever and forever is a long time...and we all know that time has a way of changeing things...

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Gay, lesbian and bisexual expert
gay, lesbian and bisexual expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Ben and thanks for posting here.

As you know every relationship is unique and there's no way to predict what will transpire. Your relationship is at a relatively young age for a one-year separation, and I hope that you've arranged at least one or two holidays during that year when you can be together. Ideally the dates for seeing each other would have been established before he left, creating a sense of a 'horizon' you can both look forward to. No doubt you are in regular communication with each other and it is important that you both be really honest about your feelings. I hope you have a good network of friends to support you while he's away. Please keep us posted on how you're doing.
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