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20 Feb 2004

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I know many of you read my postings and shared in the joys of my pregnancy - my incredible journey!

I only thought it appropriate that I tell you what happened to me. I don't want to scare any of you nor do I want to make you sad. But as you know I was pregnant with a little boy. I was 36 weeks and 4 days pregnant last Sat when he stopped moving. I went to the hospital where they tried three different heart monitors and couldn't pick up a heartbeat. The gynae that was doing emergencies did a scan and they could pick up any movement or heartbeat. My precious little angel had already died. I had an emergency caeser, I was awake and I spent about five hours holding my baby boy. He was so beautiful and looked just like his Daddy. I cried and cried but at least I got to see him and hug him a while.

Nothing prepares you for this. You just don't expect after such a wonderful and trouble-free pregnancy that you will lose your baby at 36 weeks.

To add insult to injury, I had phoned my Doctor on Tues and reported to her that I had a terrible tummy bug and had been up most of the night with stomach gripes. They were so bad I thought I was going into labour. I told her this and she simply said that there was a bug going around and that I should carry on taking Pectrolyte which I told her wasn't working. On Wed afternoon I phoned her rooms and told the receptionist that my baby was still moving but not like normal and that the tummy bug was still very bad. She told me that the doctor doesn't work on Wed afternoons and that if the baby is still moving I shouldn't worry. She told me to phone the Doctor at 8am the next morning and that she'd be going away for the weekend. I phoned at 8:22am and the answering machine was on. It said "These rooms are closed and will open again at 10am. Please don't leave a message." I didn't know who to phone but after that I felt some movement and thought that I was being silly. By Sat morning my baby must have died.

I will only get the autopsy results in about two weeks. But I just feel that this was preventable. Ladies, trust your instincts and don't, whatever happens, let a receptionist push you away or dispense medical advice. This was my biggest mistake. I knew something was wrong and I was persistent enough.

I don't mean to make you worry or make you sad, but you have all been interested in my pregnancy and we have chatted so much during the past months. I also promised to tell you when he was born.

Say a prayer for my little one. We will chat soon.

Hopefully I will be back in a few weeks/months pregnant again!

Lots of love and best wishes
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Kate

I am sorry for your loss. The autopsy will obviously give you some answers. However, it is unlikely that the tummy bug caused you to lose the baby unless you had a very high fever with it.

Best wishes
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