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17 Feb 2004

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Can you please tell me where exactly the clitoris is?... I cannot seem to locate it well.

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Mary
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01 Jan 0001

The clitoris is an extremely sensitive erectile organ located below the pubic bone, within and close to the top of the labia. The labia (majora and minora) are the outer and inner folds of skin that surround the clitoris, the urethra opening, and the vagina. The clitoris is sometimes called the "joy button." The glans (or tip), the part that you can see, attaches to the shaft, which runs along internally from the glans toward the vaginal opening. The clitoris connects to a branching interior system of erectile tissue that runs throughout a woman's genital area. The erectile tissue responds to sexual arousal by filling with blood, becoming hard and erect, similar to a man's penis. During sexual excitement, the clitoris swells and changes position. The clitoris is covered by a clitoral hood that is actually part of the labia. The size and shape of the clitoris varies in each woman, although its location is pretty much the same for all women.

The clitoris is the focus of stimulation for a woman, and usually is the place that, when stimulated, will bring her to orgasm. You can stimulate your partner's clitoris in many different ways — by rubbing, sucking, body pressure, or using a vibrator or a dildo. Although some women like direct touching on the glans of the clitoris to become aroused, for others, it is so sensitive that direct touching hurts, even with lubrication. Focusing directly on the clitoris for any length of time can also cause the pleasurable sensations to disappear. Try rubbing your partner on one side, or both sides, of her clitoris; or, wetting your fingers and rubbing them around and over her clitoris. Gently rub or pull the clitoris itself, or rub the hood or a larger area around the clitoris. Use one finger, then try several. Try different kinds of pressure and timing.

Most importantly, talk with your partner. Ask her to show you her clitoris in a sensual way (you don't need to make it an issue.). Ask her how she likes it to be touched. Ask her to show you how she touches it herself, or to put her hand on top of yours to guide you. If it's embarrassing, just remember, your (and her) knowledge is her pleasure! You might also want to take a look at a basic Human Sexuality textbook and find a diagram of a woman's genitalia, so you won't approach it with complete ignorance.

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