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14 Jan 2004

Dunno what to do...
I have recently started having a sexual relationship with one of my Colleagues/Friends at work. We were fooling around for a while and then she asked me to have sex with her, seeing that she was a virgin and i didn't wanna get in that deep. (e t pun) We then had sex a couple of times and i recently told her that it was not a healthy relationship as we were only having casual sex. She is now very upset about this and says i only used her.

I do not want to lose her friendship and have even considered going back to shaging her as this would patch things up in the interim, but then the long-term effects of that comes haunting me again. What would you do, not from an outsider's point of view, but if you were in my shoes..
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01 Jan 0001

I would suggest you take out that classic "Fatal attraction" and just sit back and reflect on casual "shagging". Maybe, just maybe you were the one having casual sex, and she was the one thinking she was in a committed monogamous relationship. Can men and women just have "casual sex" realtionships? I suggest the two of you have a grown up discussion about where this is all leading too.

Good Luck
Dr Elna Mcintosh
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