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23 Dec 2004

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Been married for almost a year. Hubby has always been a great lover. Couldn't get it up last night though! I was so disappointed and frustrated.

He says it's not me, but I take it very personal.

What can I do to stop this from happening again?
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01 Jan 0001

Don't make this about you. Erections fail for a lot of reasons, stress being one of them. Don't measure his love for you by the erection thermometer, as he could have been tired, sick, over worked, distracted, etc, etc.

If you continue being disappointed and frustrated you might very well become the cause, as your tongue could be castrating his penis (so to speak).

You don't say how old he is, etc. Call the SA Sexual Health Assoc helpline 0860 100 262 for a telephonic consult regarding erectile dysfunction.

Dr Elna McIntosh
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