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30 Nov 2005

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Im a 20y old who had sex for the first time two days ago,my bf's pretty big so he didnt penitrate me the whole way,it was nice though because he was gentle&didnt rush me and even tho it was a sper of the moment thing,we spoke about it and how it effects our relationship and we are both very inlove with each other,he could see that I was freaked so he just held me and cryed with me-he wasnt a virgin&I was planning on saving myself but ended up basical seducing him.
My question is ,is the followingnormal? I didnt bleed except a spot on my undies then when we tried again the next night to make it official it was like he was to big for me,Im very petite and he's about 19cm erect and quite a large girth,could this be a factor as we didnt use a condom the first time(stupid I know) and the next time we did. Then when we finaly did it the next night it was very painful,more than the first and I bled more but still not a substancial amount more like blood in discharge.Is this normal?
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01 Jan 0001

It is possible, and common, for a woman to be a virgin and not have pain or blood during her first intercourse. There are many reasons for this. Perhaps her hymen has already been stretched in other ways, including a regular gynecological exam, through horseback riding, or even by inserting a tampon. The hymen is a thin membrane surrounding the vaginal opening, partially blocking it, but almost never covering the opening completely. If it did, a woman couldn't menstruate. Hymens come in various sizes and shapes, and, for most women, the hymen stretches easily.

So to answer your question - YES it's normal

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