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18 Apr 2006

he is a breast man and i have none
The guy i'm seeing is a fanatic boob man and i can't shake my sense of inadequacy tho ofcourse i appreciate he must see other things in me. He's not hidden from me that he's a boob man but having very small breasts, I battle a bit trying to understand why he likes me. I'm also a bit worried thinking he must have a big-chested girl on the side? Certainly i'm sure he stares at big boobs when he sees them but then again he's a man. Even guys who don't like big boobs look at them.

any opinions welcome, esp from guys who've found themselves liking a woman who did not possess a certain 'crucial' body feature.
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01 Jan 0001

If you were doing something with a guy, and by feeling him you discovered that he had a teeny weenie peenie, would you laugh, or something? I don't think so, and I think that as much as some guys are into breasts, they wouldn't launch into a stand-up routin e or anything if your bust turned out to be less than they had bargained for. And if they did laugh, or end any potential relationship over your "under-average" endowments, then are these the kind of people you'd w ant to spend time with anyway? Wouldn't you rather be with guys who know that we are so much more than our physiques and the things that hang off of them? Look at you: you're smart, thoughtful, and funny. As you build your self-esteem (a life long process even for Dolly Parton and Pamela Anderson), take pride in these assets so undervalued in a media culture hyper-focused on full figures.

This brings up another question: are you pitting your breasts against those regularly bouncing across boob tubes and magazine pages?...
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