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30 May 2011

Husband doesn''t want sex
My husband and I are both 34 years old and have a 11 month old baby boy. Since the birth of our son, I can count on my two hands how many times we''ve had sex - and usually I have to bring it up before it will happen. I''m back to my old weight, must admit my body doesn''t look the same as before the baby, but I am still in good shape and take care of myself. How do I make this better for both of us, I am not the type to appear in sexy lingerie out of the blue, and I think he will just laugh at me anyway. I am just SO scared our marriage is slowly but surely going down the drain - it feels as if I share a house with a roommate :(
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01 Jan 0001

The birth of a child usually has a huge impact on a relationship, responsibilities and the relationship dynamic. It sometimes can even have an impact on how we view our partners – before he/she was a definite sex symbol and all of a sudden they got another role – “mother/father”. I am of the opinion that most couples can benefit from couple counseling after the birth of a child – to assist them to grow into the next phase and allowing it to have a positive rather than a negative impact on the relationship. By the sound of it you can most definitely benefit from a consult with a professional psychologist working in the field of sexual health. You are welcome to phone our helpline – 0860100262 where you could be assisted in finding a practitioner as close as possible to you.
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