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31 Mar 2006

Is it me or him?
My boyfriend and I have been going out for more than 4 years (both 23), in the beginning our sex life was ok, but know I am never in the mood when I am with him. I get very irritated-he has never given me oral sex, but expects me to give him a bj. For the first 3 years I did, but then it became all he wanted and I just stopped (nothing for me). When we have sex he does not care what I want, it is all about him (his reason: I do not enjoy sex anyway, so why bother trying to make it good for me). I have told him what i like in bed, he never does it. Is there something physically wrong with me not wanting sex (low libido) or am I simply irritated with him being so selfish?
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01 Jan 0001

All I hear is resentment, so i'm actually surprised that you have shifted the blame to yourself. Nobody wants to feel unloved, unwanted and takem for granted - not really a recipe for a happy relationship. i think you both need to address the issues in the relationship that is not working for you.
E Mc
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