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12 Aug 2011

Minefield
My problem, I''m in a long term relationship, 4 years and for the last 6 months sex has become a minefield. We use to have great sex, foreplay exploring every thing. Lately this has all changed, if we have sex once a month then its a good month and when we have sex I have to be careful with everything. I use to be able to go down on my GF and she loved to do the same but now all of a sudden it makes her feel dirty, she use to be relaxed and we use to have fun. I don''t look forward to sex and I don''t go to bed or anywhere for that matter with the expectation that we might even be passionate. Is it possible to turn around and fix it or is there a point of no return? I love her and I have wanted to marry her from the start of our relationship but I do not want to be in a marriage without passion.
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01 Jan 0001

This must be difficult for you. Did you discuss your concerns with her? Communication is always the best place to start. If that does not work, counseling. Sometimes a relationship can go through a tough time,but if both the parties work at it, it can be resolved.You can consult a psychologist or phone SASHA helpline (0860 100 262) for a referral list for practitioners in your area. Deidre - SASHA
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