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22 Oct 2009

No libido
Me and my hubby are both in our early 40' s and very happily married .. but since a few months ago ... due to LOTS of stress at work ... we have our own company ... our sex drives are zero. We are happy ... really ... and talk about this problem ... but we both agree ... we don' t even miss it at this stage. Is this normal? Thanks doc.
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01 Jan 0001

Dear Susan,

The reasons you describe are well known factors that can influence sex drive for men and women.

The fact that you both realise that your libido's have dropped and the possible reasons why, and the fact that you talk about it with each other if wonderful.

You say that you are both happy with having spoken about it and accept it for what it is at the moment. It is not a question of is it normal, since there is no universal normal.

I would recommend that the two of you consider making plans for managing the stress, making time to take a break or holiday together to recoup your energies. What does tend to happen if couples do not engage intimately for long periods they can lose their sense of connection and this can result in problems later.
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