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14 Jan 2004

Oral sex
My wife and I have a happy and thoroughly satisfying mariage (10 yrs + 2 Children) and relationship, but a small problem has raised its head. When we make love my wife will not allow me to perform oral sex, but has no problem performing it with me. I questioned her about this, and she does not have any strong feelings about it, but still does not want to allow me. I love my wife and want to please her as well as I can, I do not have a perversion or anything, but believe that she will enjoy it as much as I will.
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01 Jan 0001

Maybe you wife feels uncomfortable about her own genitals. Many women believe (wrongly so) that they smell, or that they are genitally deformed from to much childhood masturbation, or their genitals are ugly, etc, etc. There are great books available on the subject. I assume you are Afrikaans (with a name like Piet) - try and get a copy of "Die vreugde van seks" or write to me at "Women Only" and we can mail order a copy for you.

Dr Elna McIntosh
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