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09 Mar 2004

Penis size
I am in love with a woman that is so beautiful (inside out) and she loves me back.

She have a very fruitful relationship that requires very little (or nothing) to keep it going. Lately we have been engagin in sexual intercourse, and i have found that i fall short when it comes to my size. I am about 15cm long and i cant seem to please her (bring her to an orgasm) without penetrating her deeply.

See doc, i dont know if i have anything to worry about, but i would apreciate it if you were to recommend sexual positions that could increase sensation on her part. I know i cant do anything about the size of my penis, i can only change the way i use it (a lot of work, but worth it). I just want to please her so much.

I love her, and i want her to have the same satisfaction in our sexual relations as she does with the rest of me. I enjoy her, and i need her to be satesfied - i dont like being the only one who frequently has orgasms. it is selfish as far as i am concerned.

Please help me, recomending books to read could also do the trick.

Thank you for your time.
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Sexy

01 Jan 0001

Orgasms originate from the Clitoris (that is not inside the vagina, but on top). The fact that your partner is anorgasmic (no orgasms) has nothing to do with your penis size, but maybe more with what sexual position you use. Very few women are orgasmic in missionary position. Try women on top.

There are great books and self help videos available. Try "Becoming orgamic" by LiPicillo and Heiman, or the "Sex a Life Long pleasure" video series. There are 5 in the set and they are available from the "Women Only" store at R99-00 each (possibly the best R500-00 you can spend). Call (011) 787 - 1222 or e-mail disa@icon.co.za

Regards
Dr Elna McIntosh

PS. From the Archives:

DON'T SWEAT SMALL PENIS SIZE! [Reader Forum]
(1)
I just want to say you crack me up. you seem like a sweetheart... I was reading through your stuff and came across someone worried about penis size... well I at one time was worried too. (GRIN) well I feel better knowing that the average size is 13 - 15cm (SMILE). (GRIN) You made my day... but the reason that I wanted to write you is to let people know I found out it's not about just size and penetration...women like feeling touching caressing... and lots of GOOD kisses. GUYs — no slobbering, be passionate. that's what separates the big and little boys... since I've been that way... REAL orgasms are at 90% of the time for her. I love it... remember it's not the size... use it RIGHT and give women what they really want... be a good man... peace

(2)
I was looking through your archives and just want to comment on the never ending concerns of men about penis size. I recently fell in love with a man who is, shall we say, on the petite side. And... consistently have with him the best sex I've ever had in my life (I'm forty-three, so that is a fair amount of experience) AND I might add, have had the kind of soul rocking sex that I had only wondered about before I met him. Don't sweat it small guys, love her right and you'll be lucky enough to keep her for the rest of your life.

(3)
I see there is a debate over the importance of penis size. I have an average size penis and am very satisfied with it. As you said earlier, love making is a combination of many factors. My experience with the females has been great as I've matured to middle age. Psychological factors, such as fantasy, longing, anticipation, "naughtiness," and positive power (dominant/submissive)fantasy are unique to each individual. I'm sure you realize that exploring these with a partner you trust is where the real orgasmic intensity comes from.

Do you think women who seek a large penis do so because of being trained that way to stereotypes (like men who want huge silicone breasts)? Or do you think these women are just way out of shape and think a Kegel is something to eat?

(4)
My boyfriend has a small penis as well, but he is the most caring and wonderful person I have ever met. He loves me — and that is what matters to me. He loves me with his heart. Any woman who cares about penis size in a genuine relationship isn't worth wanting. We women can achieve orgasm with just a little finger even! It is not the size, all the sensations are on the surface. So please guys, do not sweat it. Love her and don't make it an issue. Can she really care about you if it matters to her? Would you really want someone like that? I don't think so.

Kerrie

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