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30 Jun 2010

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Hi

Can anyone tell me which porn webside I can visit, I am married and my sex drive is very low and this frustrates my husband. I really need to boost my libido but not with medication.

please help.
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01 Jan 0001

Porn only results in arousal for some, not an increase in libido. Furthermore, accessing porn without his knowlege could potentially be seen as you wanting to be sexual without him - so do beware.

There are a number of factors that can lower the libido more than normal (and yes, it is common for it to decline in women in a long term relationship once she feels secure). These factors include physiological factors (homone imbalances), side-effects of medication, depression, high stress levels, tiredness, anger or frustration at your partner, feeling of disconnection from him, other sexual problems, and so on. What it is that is contributing to your loss of desire needs to be understood so that you can attempt to address it. Enhancing arousal can help once you're being sexual, but it may not drive you to want to be sexual...

I recommend that you speak to a sexologist who can assess your particular situation and give you and your husband some ideas. He really would need to be part of this work.

You could find a local sexual health professional via your GP or call the SASHA Helpline and leave a message 0860 100 262.

Claire - SASHA
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