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30 May 2011

13 year old daughter - please help
I month ago we found out that my 13 year old daughter had a boyfriend she was hiding from us....we''re a very open family and were very disappointed...we took her phone away and she asked for us to change her number as she didn''t know how to get this guy off her back as he was harassing her...which we did, she built up the trust and last night we find that it hasn''t ended and it''s far worse than what we expected.

When we drop her at youth on a Friday, her boyfriends parents go fetch her and she goes back to their house.....where i''m horrified to say she''s been having oral sex with this guy...i''m absolutely devastated and don''t know what to do.

She says she can''t control herself (her sexual urges) and needs help...where do i take her??? What do i do??

I''m at a point where i want to put her in an all girls boarding school.....

If we charge this guy with Stat rape...everyone will do we save our family from the ridicule and embarrassment
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Teen expert
Teen expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi Mandy,

I would suggest you go with your daughter to see a psychologist - one that specialises in adolescents. This will provide a safe space for her to discuss her feelings and make sense of how to integrate her sexual feelings in a healthy way. Many young people struggle to control sexual urges, but for their own safety and at times healthy development it is important for them to feel in control of their behaviour and their bodies.

I would also like to point out that if the boy she has been sexually active with is also under the age of 16 years, your daughter could face a charge of Statutory Rape from his parents. It is often not realised that the law works both ways regardless of gender.

Best wishes
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