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06 Apr 2006

Depressed teenager who doesn't fit in
I had a real eye opening conversation with my 18 year old daughter last night. She is so sad, doesnt want to go back to college to finish matric when it opens next term. Last yearseemed ok but she didnt make friends she saw outside college as they all bunk class, smoke, drink and take drugs, none of these my daughter does so they called her a nerd but still hung out with her at college. When she was awarded top student in her field of study for last year at an awards ceremony in January the rest of the kids wont go near her now. She told me she is alone all day with no one to talk to. I was devestated as she has always had friends. I want to contact the college for her to finish via correspondance as she refuses to go back. Is this the right thing to do, or must I force her to continue? Please help
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teen expert

01 Jan 0001

What I suggest is that you (and your daughter if she is willing to go) have a meeting with the college to discuss the problems and look for the way forward.

The solution may be correspondence, but she then runs the risk of being further isolated. Alternatively there may be others at the college who she gets on with rather than the people she is hanging around with who she can link in with.

The other alternative is to consider another college with a more academic foucs - or consider a school rather than a college where she may find that the other students are just as focused on work as her - especially in the matric year.

Whatever route she chooses it is imperative that she does finish her matric - these days you get nowhere without that qualification to start you off.
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