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27 Jul 2005

Over protective or not
Hi Doc

My daughter is 13 turning 14 october, I love her very much always when she is out with friends to play she come late home after 6pm I know she loves going to park,play on the street or hang around with other girls and all her friends are older than her.The thing i don't want her to play till late because she make me worry.it doesn't seem she is listening to me she's still come late on monday i laid my hand on her and since i feel very bad about it.

Doc please help me . Is it because she is the only child i pay too much attention on her or maybe she started going out with boyfriends (I will die if that so) She is lying to me if i ask her to do something for me or for herself e.g like sweep the kitchen she will say i have swept even if she didn't the floor is still dirty. What makes her to lie to me.

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teen expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi there

it is important for you to maintain your position as parent and if your daughter is not listening to you then a good place to start is to ask her why she is not listening to you. Many people at this age push the parental boundaries and it sounds as if this is what she is doing. It is also a time when boundaries need to be thought about and at times renegotiated. However, if you feel that the older girls are into things that are too advanced for your daughters age then you need to keep an eye on this.

One way of mainatining your boundaries is to link pocket money to chores and to coming in on time. The main message to give your daughter is that it is because you love her that these boundaries exist - for her safety.

There may be some things that you are prepared to negotiate - such as the time she comes home, and other things you are certain about. Get this clear in your own mind before speaking to her. What is important is that this is a conversation - if it becomes a lecture chances are your daughter will not take any interest!

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