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28 Nov 2004

sexy-gay-boy gets dumped :(
me and my bf have been dating for a year and 5 months. we neva met coz we live 200km apart but maintain a relationship via sms, email and phone.

this neva bothered neighter one of us, coz im going to vasity nexy year where he lived - and we were looking foward to actually meet.

He is so sweet and everything i could dream of having, a very nice guy and i really love him.

Wednesday night, he sms'ed and said he cant take it anymore, we have to split. When i tried to call for an explanation he doesnt answer.

He doesnt reply my emails or my sms - what do i have to do, to talk to him. i don't know why he want to break up, he ignores me.

Ek is baie hartseer!

Please help.


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Teen expert
teen expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi there,

given that you have never met, it may be that you are in love with the idea of a person rather than the reality, as until you meet him you won't know if you really like him. Having said this it is very hurtful to have your hopes built up in this way, only to be dashed. It is unfair of him to not give you an explanation.

Many gay people do find it more difficult to meet people because of some of the prejudices in society. But please don't let this put you off. Wait and see what happens and when you get to varsity or even in your home town you may find the right person for you.

Just remember you have the right to be happy, and if that guy can't make you happy then another one will sometime in the future. If you need to chat to someone the Triangle Project in Cape Town has a helpline on 021 422 2500. If you are not in Cape Town they will tell you where your nearest servce is.

Best wishes
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