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30 Nov 2004

Teen out of control
Hi, what do i do with a teenager that just does not listen???He does as he pleases.If i ask him to do work he does not do it.He goes out & comes home late without telling me.He is very disobedient & absolutely lazy.He has written his matric exams & im too scared to even think of what the results are going to be like.
Is this just a phase his going through or is it a attitude problem???

Please advise
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Teen expert
teen expert

01 Jan 0001

Hi there,

given that your son has written matric I assume he is about 17/18. At this point in his life he is trying to assert his independence which at times will mean that he pushes against the boundaries that you have as a parent.

If he refuses to listen to you, it may be that you have to display some tough love. Does he work or do you finance him, because you can make it clear that the money will only be forthcoming in exchange for respect towards you.

You can also make it clear that it is your house and your rules and if he wants to continue living there, this must also be respected.

Its about trying to negotiate and meeting each other half way. If he refuses to do this you may have to get tough!

Best wishes
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