Sexual superhero: flexibility

These exercises form part of the Sexual Superhero programme for premature ejaculation which was developed by Jonti Searll.

An important aspect of being a good lover and having good sexual muscle control is flexibility. The sedentary desk-bound, TV-oriented lifestyles that many of us lead cause a stiffening of the body, particularly in the lower back and hips. Flexibility in these areas can be used to give awesome pleasure to your partner and yourself. It also helps enormously in controlling your sexual muscles and response.

Read the next points carefully before you begin:

  • Stand up, put your hands on your hips and bend your knees
  • Start moving your hips in a circle. Take note of your range of motion
  • Now move your hips backwards and forwards
  • See how far you can move and how it feels, e.g. loose, tight, stiff, easy

We’re going to begin with some very basic exercises to develop flexibility in your hips and pelvis, and gradually extend the movements. Later we’ll be connecting a few dots as I show you how to apply these to phenomenal sexual techniques.

Weeks 1 and 2

  • Stand with your hands on your hips, knees bent, body relaxed.
  • Move in 10 clockwise and then 10 anti-clockwise circles.

 

  • Do 10 pelvic thrusts. Really push your hips forwards and feel the muscles of your buttocks squeeze as you move forward.
  • Perform 10 forward circles, as if you’re rolling your pelvis round a ball.
  • Do 10 backward circles “around the ball”. Feel the arch in your back.

 

As with the PC muscle exercises, start slowly and build on a solid base. All the complicated movements that will come later are a result of understanding and mastering these simple principles and practices. Without understanding “1+1=2” the rest of mathematics is meaningless. We tend to prefer the complicated because we think it’s better. In sexual terms, however, some basic learning goes a long way.

A few years ago I read about an informal study done in 30 countries around the world. Men were shown pictures of female genitals and were asked to find the clitoris. The result was that only about 35% of men could find it, and even fewer of them knew what to do with it, once they’d found it.

Weeks 3 and 4 

Double your circles in all directions as well as the pelvic thrusts, and instead of doing 10 ofeach, you’re going to 20. The next exercise may challenge your co-ordination, so do take it slowly.

  • You’re going to form a Figure 8, while lying on your hips.
  • Start from the centre, knees bent, hands on your hips.
  • Move your hips forward and out to the right, round the back to the centre.
  • Cross in the middle, then move forward and out to the left, round the back and return to the centre.

Once you’ve got the movement and the rhythm, do 10 in one direction and 10 in the opposite direction.

Weeks 5 and 6

Don’t increase the number of circles and thrusts you’re doing, carry on with 20 of each. The exercises are just going to get more advanced (and complicated). There’s a bigger picture here, a purpose which will become clearer later.

The next exercise is a Figure 8 with the middle of your body, while standing upright:

  • Assume your position
  • Your first circle is backward, out and down, coming forward and up, crossing in the middle, moving up, forward and over the top
  • A good way to make this easier is to close your eyes and draw the Figure 8 with your body, maybe even with a colour
  • In your imagination trace your body moving round the track a few times 
  • When that feels comfortable, let your body begin to follow the movement in your imagination. If you get stuck or confused, stop and take a deep breath. (Don’t get frustrated)
  • Take another deep breath, follow the circuit in your mind and let your body follow.If you can do this, you can do anything.

Many years ago there was a great TV series called Kung Fu with David Carradine. He played a young Shaolin monk, learning what all Shaolin monks do. In one scene his old teacher holds a pebble in his hands and says, “Grasshopper, when you can take this from my hand, you.re ready to leave.”

When you’ve mastered the Figure 8 in all directions, you’re getting closer.

(Jonti Searll, sensualist, October 2010)

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