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According to numerous studies, happily married couples are more likely to enjoy better mental and physical health than their not-so-happy friends. A happy marriage is linked to a lower risk of developing cancer, having a heart attack and being diagnosed with dementia and various other diseases.
What is it about being happily married that’s so healthy? Two biggies: you encourage each other to see a doctor when you should, and you give each other emotional support through good times and bad, which boosts overall health.
Happiness, longevity and physical health tend to accrue to folks in a good marriage. These positive findings are probably largely about the support between husband and wife and are relevant for both men and women. So, what is the secret to a happy marriage? Answer these questions to make sure you’re on the right track.
How much fun are you having?
Couples who play together stay together.
- At least part of the day should be set aside for time alone together, even if it’s a tired twenty minutes after the kids are in bed, to refresh that connection.
- Go on regular date nights, at least twice a month.
- Have sneaky lunches, or go in to work later and have breakfast together, or schedule time for each other as you would for a business meeting.
- Don’t have an affair with the TV or computer.
- That passionate kiss when your partner walks in
the door can easily morph into a peck on the cheek, that can morph into the
inability even to look up from the computer.
Studies show that nearly half of men cheat because of emotional dissatisfaction – not lack of sex.
How appreciative are you?
The whole family will benefit from positive energy between the two of you. "Happy wife, happy life" is more than just a popular rhyme. Show fondness, interest and compassion. Say thank you for the little things. Tuck a note into his pocket to tell him how much you love him. Text each other during the day – just to check in. The message could be naughty or nice – it’s up to you.
How much sex are you having?
The best things in life are free. Good sex is not enough to make a good marriage, but without sex your connection may become fragile.
Are you doing mundane things together?
Time together does not always have to mean flowers and music. Grocery shopping or cleaning the kitchen reinforces the message that you are a team.
Do you recognise the ebb and the flow?
Life has its ups and downs. Relationships aren’t flatlined – that’s death. We all go through times when the mere thought of life without your partner can bring tears to your eyes, and a week later his constant snoring may drive you up the wall. Accept that your partner is not perfect and never will be. Give up focusing on the small things. We’ve all been there; try to find the middle ground.
Are you respectful and caring?
Make a firm decision never to be disrespectful, even in the heat of the battle. Be a good listener. Be kind. Express your feelings, thoughts and wants, allowing your partner to do the same.
How grateful are you?
Gratitude has been statistically linked to happiness and hope. Find the positives in your relationship. Express your love and gratitude for each other on a daily basis.
Living in the bosom of a happy marriage signs you up for great life benefits. Protect your investment. Remember, you get out what you put in.
Source: www.psychologytoday.com, www.nelirogers.com, www.deseretnews.com, www.huffingtonpost.com, www.sharecare.com, www.yahoo.com, www.wikihow.com, www.medicalnewstoday.com, time.com, haphappy.com
