Heartfelt talks between parent and child are essential to help kids overcome tough times and do their best at school, a new study says.
Traumatic events in a kid's life can cause the child to neglect school work and increase the odds that they'll wind up repeating a grade, researchers found.
A sympathetic parent
But having even one parent lend a kind and caring ear appears to help kids work past the toxic stress caused by those events, resulting in better performance at school, according to the study.
A sympathetic parent has a stronger impact on a troubled child's educational performance than whether they eat regular family meals or live in a safe and well-kept neighbourhood, said lead researcher Dr Angelica Robles. She's a paediatrician with Novant Health Developmental-Behavioral Pediatrics in Charlotte, North Carolina.
"The parent really had the biggest influence," Robles said. "Kids were six times more likely to complete homework and six times more likely to care about school" if they had a parent who could share ideas or talk about things that matter.
For their study, Robles and her colleagues analysed data drawn from a 2011–2012 federal survey of more than 65 000 children ages six to 17.
They found that adverse childhood events could seriously affect a child's interest in school – among them domestic or neighbourhood violence, economic hardship, substance abuse or mental illness in the home, the death or incarceration of a caregiver, and divorce or separation of parents.
Worse, the negative effect on school performance increases with each additional adverse event. Kids with four or more adverse events in their lives were nearly three times more likely to repeat a grade, three times more likely to not care about school and four times more likely to shrug off homework.
However, researchers found that positive engagement with a caring parent could go a long way in offsetting the damage caused by life.
A caring parent increased by sixfold a child's likelihood of completing homework and being engaged in school, and nearly doubled the odds that the kid would never have to repeat a grade.
The findings were published online in the journal Pediatrics.
"A child who had experienced trauma in their life was able to do so much better in school if they said their parent cared about them and that they could talk about things together," said Dr Rebecca Dudovitz, an assistant professor of paediatrics with UCLA's David Geffen School of Medicine. She wrote an editorial that accompanied the study.
A caring parent mattered much more than any other factor in either the home or the neighbourhood, researchers found.
For example, having five or more family meals a week only made it about a third more likely that a child would do their homework and care about school, results showed.
"We thought regular family meals would be protective, and they were slightly, but what is more important is if during that meal do you have a conversation or do you have the TV on?" Robles said.
Any caring adult
A safe neighbourhood that is well-kept also had some protective effect for kids, as did supportive neighbours and nearby amenities like parks and community centres, researchers found. None came anywhere near the benefit from having a parent who listens, however.
For example, a supportive neighbour could make a kid 85% more likely to finish homework, 60% more likely to care about school and 40% more likely to never repeat a grade.
Other studies also have shown that having any caring adult in their lives will improve a child's chances of success, even if it's just a neighbour, Dudovitz said.
"There's a lot of studies to suggest that even relationships with people who are not the parents make a huge difference," Dudovitz said. "Just being able to cite that you have a caring older adult in your life is associated with a whole host of positive health outcomes for kids."
For example, studies have shown that a positive relationship with a teacher or coach can reduce a kid's risk of substance abuse, she said.
"Kids are constantly paying attention to adults in their lives, even teenagers who don't seem to care at all about what we have to say," Dudovitz said. "They really are watching us and want to be seen as whole individuals."
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