Shopping can ruin your marriage

Spending a bit too much? Your relationship could suffer.
Spending a bit too much? Your relationship could suffer.

Marriage is sometimes a case of "till shopping do us part".

According to new research, if you think your spouse is a spendthrift, it may hurt your marriage – whether it's true or not.

Perception outweighs reality

The researchers found that husbands were most likely to develop a spousal conflict over money if they thought their wives spent too much. For wives, being perceived by their husbands as spending too much was most likely to spark a financial conflict.

This appears to be true of couples regardless of their incomes, the study findings showed. It's also true whether they actually spent a lot of money or not. In other words, perception outweighed reality, the researchers said.

"The fact that spouses' perceptions of each other's spending behaviours were so predictive of financial conflict suggests that when it comes to the impact of finances on relationships, perceptions may be just as important, if not more important, than reality," said study co-author Ashley LeBaron. She is a graduate student at Brigham Young University in Provo, Utah.

The researchers based their findings on data from a project that has surveyed almost 700 families since its start in 2007.

Communication about finances important

According to study co-author Sonya Britt-Lutter, "Couples need to communicate about finances, especially early in marriage." Britt-Lutter is an associate professor and certified financial planner from Kansas State University.

"Don't think that financial problems will magically go away when circumstances change. The study showed that circumstances weren't the issue here, perception was, and perception doesn't always change when circumstances do," she said in a news release from Brigham Young University.

The findings also showed that 90% of women and 85% of men said they had at least some worries about money.

Jeffrey Hill is a study co-author and a family life professor at Brigham Young University.

He said, "The good news is that couples can benefit from clinical help, whether that be a financial planner or a marriage and family therapist."

The study was published online in the Journal of Financial Planning.

How to deal with relationship strain

South African statistics on marriages show that there has been a 2.3% increase in divorces since 2015, and that 45.5% of all divorces in 2015 did not make it to their 10-year anniversary.

So how do you deal with those daily stress factors that will ultimately end your marriage? Health24 gives the following tips:

  • Try marriage or couple counselling for guidance on how better to communicate and deal with daily problems.
  • Build strong communication skills to be able to talk about problems sooner rather than later.
  • Seek help as soon as problems occur.

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