Respected political analyst and academic Nompumelelo
Runji seemed the picture of a successful black professional woman. Yet, like
many of us, she privately battled personal demons. In her book How I Took Back My
Power (Tafelberg), Nompumelelo lays bare her truth. She shares the story of her
childhood abuse and a toxic, dysfunctional marriage, which she endured in
secret while projecting the image of a near-perfect life. It took a major
health scare to change everything. Only when she got the support she needed to
walk away from a relationship that was destroying her, could she start healing
and begin to thrive in her personal and professional life.
In this extract, she writes about a time after she had braces put on her teeth, and suffered the neglect of Sheffield, her husband – leading up to the moment she knew she could be with him no longer.