Trans man embraces his true gender identity and wishes to undergo a gender-affirming surgery

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Jayce De Villers. Image supplied
Jayce De Villers. Image supplied

  • Jayce De Villers was born in a woman's body, but growing up, he was attracted to the same sex.
  • In 2018, he started bodybuilding and taking a lot of testosterone. He began transitioning over the years.
  • Now, he needs top surgery which will give him the freedom he has always craved.

Jayce De Villers was born in a woman's body, but he always knew that he wasn't being his authentic self from a young age as he identified as a man. 

At the age of 12, he sensed attraction to the same sex, that was when he came out as a lesbian.

"At the age of 12, I came out as a lesbian for a couple of years, and through those years, something didn't feel right. I didn't feel good in my skin," Jayce says in a video he recorded telling people about his journey to getting top surgery.

Jayce is ready for his top surgery. Image supplied 

It took a while for the 26-year-old man from Nelspruit to fully embrace who he is.

"I knew something was wrong, something was missing, something was not right. My past relationships never worked out due to my internal personal struggles," he says.

In 2018, he started bodybuilding, started taking a lot of testosterone and started transitioning over the years. 

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Jayce before he began transitioning. Image supplied

"From being masculine to having facial hair (still struggling), to my voice changing, I love the changes that are happening in my life and living in my own skin. But of course, there's a lot still to accomplish before I can be totally okay with looking into the mirror and loving what I see," Jayce says.

But now, Jayce says there is something needed to complete his transitioning.

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"Now I feel like I have reached the plateau," adding that he wishes to undergo top surgery. 

"There is one thing though, that is going to change my life tenfold," he says.

The surgery, which costs R100 000, will finally grant him the freedom he has desperately craved.

"Not just freedom to wear clothes but freedom not to wear clothes. To look at myself in the mirror and love what I see. It doesn't matter how fit I get."

Jayce and his wife, Leandri. Image supplied

Jayce met his wife, Leandri, at the age of 25.

"She has made me embrace the man I have always been inside," he adds.

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He launched a Crowdfund on BackaBuddy to help him pay for the surgery.

"I hate to admit it but my breasts are something that kills me daily. To see the straps of my sports bra kills me. To wonder if my sports bra is showing underneath my button-up shirt kills me. To not swim at a beach because I don't want another person coming to me and asking me why I wear a bra – kills me.

"I dream of the day where I can walk freely without a shirt and with confidence take a dip in the ocean or swimming pool with my beautiful wife," he says.

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Jayce is currently working as an English teacher in Phnom Penh, Cambodia. He hopes to get this surgery done in Thailand.

He hopes that he will give other trans people the courage to live their truth by sharing his story. 

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Jayce De Villers. Image supplied

Leila Ebrahim, from Gender DynamiX says: "The road to Gender Affirming Healthcare is not an easy one. Gender dysphoria is real and, in certain cases, results in death due to mental wellness. Medical Aids need to realise that this journey is not cosmetic.

"It takes true wisdom to fathom the unique difference between sex and gender." 

To support Jayce's top surgery, you can donate on BackaBuddy: https://www.backabuddy.co.za/jayce-de-villiers 

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