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- The Independent spoke with dating experts to find signs of dating the right person.
- Having the same core values is a green flag.
- A relationship expert shares key elements that determine if a relationship will work.
Relationships go through highs and lows, and sometimes the challenges may be so overwhelming that you feel you are with the wrong person. The Independent spoke with dating experts to find out what signs people can look for to determine if they are with the right person.
3 signs you are dating the right person for you
1. Can you and your partner meet in the middle? Psychotherapist Kate Moyle says the ability to compromise is the key to any successful relationship. According to Moyle, who also hosts 'The Sexual Wellness Sessions' podcast, people will naturally disagree, but how they negotiate and find middle ground matters.
2. Do you make each other feel good about yourselves? Dating coach James Preece says the right match should empower you and make you feel confident. "They'll reassure you, pay compliments and let you know how amazing you are. If you start to believe it, too, then you will never need to question anything or doubt yourself.
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3. Do you have similar core values? Preece stresses the importance of ensuring your partner's life goals and values are taking you in the same direction. "You are a team and need to be on the same page. This requires you both to align on what's important to you in life."
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In a previous article we did about what makes love work, relationship expert Paula Quinsee said many deeper elements need to be considered when entering into a relationship, which will determine if your relationship will likely work out. These include:
- Value systems as different value systems can cause clashes.
- Cultural backgrounds as different cultural or traditional expectations can cause conflict.
- Religious path. Having different faiths and beliefs can cause conflict.
- Financial goals are spending vs saving, financial responsibilities etc.
- Lifestyle aspirations, e.g. hobbies, interests etc.
- Family aspirations, e.g. relationships with family, wanting children etc.
