We are 'like wives': Friends move in together after divorce and become 'platonic life partners'

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  • Marissa Baker, 30, and her best friend, Patty Kulak, 27 moved in together after going through divorces.
  • The two are inseparable and they love doing everything together. 
  • Even though they are not attracted to each other romantically, Marissa says if she could pick a husband, she would want Patty in a male form.

Marissa Baker, 30, and her best friend, Patty Kulak, 27, say they are "platonic life partners" and live happily. The besties moved in together after going through divorces.

Patty shares that she met Marissa at her birthday party on 1 January 2021, after her then husband told her he wanted a divorce. At the time, they didn't know each other well.

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Patty loved Marissa's podcast and was a big fan. She leaned on her for support from then on. The two have been inseparable ever since. "She welcomed me with open arms," Patty says.

Months later, Marissa separated from her then husband, and the singletons decided to move in together in Naples, Florida, in the US. Now, they go on friendship dates, work out and do household chores together.

Marissa says they "are like wives" but insists it works because they "aren't attracted to each other".

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She adds, "If I could pick a husband, I would want Patty in a male form".

"It is wild. Our whole relationship has been very simple - we just say this is where we are at, and this is what we need, and the other person is like, 'Boom, got it'.

"That is why we jokingly call each other platonic life partners because whatever the universe does, we just help each other figure out, and it is so fun.

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"We learned very quickly how similar we are, we both love positivity and personal development, and we don't want to go out to the bar and drink.

"We have built such a good connection over something that can be considered so ugly," Marissa says.

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