TikToker reveals bizarre DMs from jealous wives convinced she is the other woman, plus expert advice

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Bontle Khalo
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  • TikTok content creator Bontle Khalo was told to stay away from someone's husband.
  • Shocked by this, she shared emails from a woman who says her husband always likes her videos.
  • After reassuring her that she didn't know her husband and was not dating him, she still did not believe her.

TikTok content creator Bontle Khalo recently received an email that left her confused. It came from a wife 'nicely' asking her to stay away from her husband. 

She shared this with her over 57 000 followers: "I have been accused of having an affair with a married man by his wife."

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The woman's email read: "My husband follows you on TikTok, and he has been commenting and liking your videos a lot over the past months. He even posts them on his WhatsApp status, and I just would like to know if there is anything happening between the two of you. And if there is, be mindful of the fact that he has a wife and kids, and the marriage was blessed by God. Please don't be the reason he leaves his family."  

@bontle.khalo #greenscreen being accused of things I know nothing about by people I don’t even know. ????????? #bontlekhalo #TasteOfSunshine #viral #fyp? #foryou ? original sound - BONTLE KHALO??

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She was confused and did not even know who the woman was referring to, Bontle tells us. 

In an effort to reassure the wife, she responded, "I am not dating your husband. I don't even know who he is, I have over 57 000 followers who like and comment on my videos daily, and I can guarantee you that I'm most probably not even following your husband on TikTok." But that was not reassuring enough for the wife, and she responded, "Whatever is done in the dark will be revealed in the light always."

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"She could have talked to her husband about the matter and not involved the 'other woman' [me] because right now, she is getting judged by so many women on TikTok. This experience has taught me that if I get married in future, I should keep my marital affair within my marital home."

Bontle shares that it is not the first time something like this has happened to her. Another woman on Facebook messaged her, asking if she had something going on with her boyfriend. Again, she didn't know the man in question. 

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Bontle Khalo

Relationship expert Paula Quinsee says there are often underlying issues in relationships, and when things like this happen, it is just a symptom.

For example, Paula highlights that the wife in question's relationship may be disconnected. They might not spend quality time together, have trust issues, and the relationship could be rocky. When a couple feels connected and secure in their relationship, there is no reason to look elsewhere for "attention". 

"The best way to handle this is to talk to your husband to get more context on the situation, to share with him how this behaviour makes you feel as his partner, and agree on what is/is not appropriate and any boundaries going forward," says Paula.

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