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- There is nothing wrong with preferring the missionary as your no.1 sex position of choice.
- But finding ways to spice it up can be challenging for couples.
- Here are 5 ways to get the most out of the prime sex position, according to sex expert and founder of Spicey Luscious Kgomotso Masela.
The missionary position may be labelled as this 'boring' sex position, but that is not quite true.
Perhaps this misconception stems from the fact that missionary is the prime introductory sexual position for many people.
Kgomotso Masela, the founder of Spicey Luscious, a business that assists women with information to help them have more pleasurable sexual experiences, says it may be deemed boring when "it never changes."
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To defend the shunned position, Kgomotso says the missionary position has sentimental values as it allows the couple to connect on a deeply intimate level and maintain eye and skin contact throughout the pleasurable moment.
It doesn't have to be boring at all.
"You can adjust and modify missionary so that it fits your mood at all times. However, if you do something the same way all the
time, you can end up feeling bored, but the missionary position is not boring at all. What can make the position boring is if it is done the same way, same place, every single time.
"The missionary is a great way to get the mission accomplished! There is nothing wrong with preferring the missionary as the position of choice. Couples need to constantly find ways to spice it up by exploring each other's bodies and finding what works for them and makes them reach a sensational orgasm," she adds.
Here are 5 ways to spice it up according to Kgomotso
Change the location, move from the bedroom to the couch or to the floor.
Play with erogenous zones while in missionary – Play on the areas between the neck and the ears, (not to mention the tongue on the earlobes for extra stimulation).
Massage, suck or slightly squeeze one of the body's most sensitive areas, the breasts and the nipples! This is a great way to get the blood flowing quickly, and if you're lucky, you might get a nipple orgasm!
Pay attention to each other's rhythm and move accordingly. Focus on your breathing and try to sync your inhales and exhales, thus enjoying heightened sexual sensations simultaneously. Also, allow for deeper and longer breaths in between.
Intensify stimulation by trying different angles – One of the best things about missionary is how flexibly bodies can move. For deeper penetration, support the lower back with a pillow. This will push up the pelvis, forcing the partner to thrust downwards and go deeper.
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Tips are great, but if there is no communication, it may be the beginning of problems in the relationship.
"Give feedback by vocalising your pleasures in a way understandable by both. If you're not one to speak during intercourse, feel free to moan if you love what the other is doing," Kgomotso says.
"A subtle whisper in the ear or telling them to keep going is a great way of stimulating your partner and giving them an extra push to be more adventurous. Pay attention to your partner's body language and respond accordingly. At times, the unspoken language is much louder than the spoken one. The way the body moves, the sensual touch and the rhythm of the breaths."
