Bride bans future in-laws from getting married the same year as her, insists it's too close

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Klaus Vedfelt
  • Sometimes people do too much to show how much they don't like you, and this future sister-in-law takes it to the max.
  • First, she tried to set her partner's brother up with her best friend, but he didn't like her and instead found a girl on his own. 
  • Now, he's engaged, and she insists they aren't allowed to get married within six months of her wedding, all while asking invasive questions.

Setting the perfect wedding date can be quite a challenge since there's so much to consider. There are people's birthday celebrations, close family members not being able to take off work and maybe someone else's wedding day looming.

Cathy* who is about to get married at the end of the year says she isn't 'allowed' to get married within the same year as her future sister-in-law, Jane*. Moreover, Jane keeps fishing for details about their wedding.

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Taking to Reddit, Cathy starts the story by saying she's been with her partner, Calvin* for six years and last year, they got engaged. Her partner's brother John* also got engaged to his Jane last year.

Cathy adds that, from the start, her future sister-in-law never liked her. That's because the future sister-in-law wanted to set Calvin up with her best friend, but he didn't like her. Jane had tried so hard to set them up that even after Calvin got a girlfriend, she would still mention her in conversations and even invite her to events. 

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"Fast forward to now, we all live separately, have our own houses and lives. They invited us over to their house two weeks after they got engaged to ask my partner to be part of the groomsmen, and that's when my future sister-in-law asked when we were looking to get married, and my partner said by the end of the year," shares Cathy.

Jane responded that they just need to make sure it isn't within six months of her wedding. From there on, she began asking for every detail of their wedding day over the phone, but this bride-to-be and her partner ignored her text messages and calls.

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"At a family birthday party, I was making drinks for everyone, and she cornered me. She asked me when we were planning to get married, and I told her some time end of this year, maybe September this year, and their wedding is in June. She then said, 'Why do you want to get married so fast, are you pregnant?' I was shocked and confused by the question," explains Cathy.

She says Jane continued asking invasive questions, such as how they were paying for their wedding. When she was told the bride-to-be's parents were helping out, she wanted to know how much her parents were giving her.

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Users of the platform flooded the woman's post in support of her, giving her advice on how to deal with her future sister-in-law, with one saying, "Please, for the love of your sanity, spare not a single thought on this woman.

"Share as few details as possible with her, and if she continues to have the audacity to ask questions, tell her it's comforting to know how concerned she is that every detail of your wedding is perfect, seeing how she has her own wedding to plan."

Another said, "The main character in the movie of her own life - upset that the side characters don't follow her script. I can only stress what others have already said - Tell. Her. Nothing."

Source: Reddit

* Not their real names

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