Help: I enjoy bonking both men and women

Anonymous from Pretoria writes:

I’m a 34-year-old man and

I really can’t decide where I belong

because I’ve been having intercourse

with both men and women.

I enjoy anal sex a lot but I feel that

I need to be honest with myself. I’m

not sure if I’m gay or bisexual.

Dr Eve answers:

Sexual preference is just one

slice of the cake that makes up

your entire sexual identity and

sexual orientation. Liking anal sex

and enjoying sex with both men and

women does not mean you are gay

or bisexual or heterosexual.

Claiming your own sexual orientation

requires you to acknowledge

how you feel emotionally about

people. Ask yourself these questions:

who do you feel sexually attracted to;

who do you wish to form a relationship

with and which community do

you wish to belong to.