Anonymous from Pretoria writes:
I’m a 34-year-old man and
I really can’t decide where I belong
because I’ve been having intercourse
with both men and women.
I enjoy anal sex a lot but I feel that
I need to be honest with myself. I’m
not sure if I’m gay or bisexual.
Dr Eve answers:
Sexual preference is just one
slice of the cake that makes up
your entire sexual identity and
sexual orientation. Liking anal sex
and enjoying sex with both men and
women does not mean you are gay
or bisexual or heterosexual.
Claiming your own sexual orientation
requires you to acknowledge
how you feel emotionally about
people. Ask yourself these questions:
who do you feel sexually attracted to;
who do you wish to form a relationship
with and which community do
you wish to belong to.