HELP: "I want to please my man but he hates oral sex"

Anonymous from Jo'burg writes: 

I am a 26-year-old woman dating my boyfriend, who is 34 years old. Every time we have sex, I want to perform oral sex on him but he refuses. What can I do because I want to please him.

Dr Eve answers:

Like all sexual activities, oral sex is a choice people make to engage in or not. If you

enjoy it and he does not, find other ways to express your enjoyment of sex with him. Chat with him about other sexual activities he may enjoy. In this way, he will know that you

want to please him.