HELP: "I’m in love with my cousin and he says he loves me too"

Anonymous from Kwamashu writes:

I’ve been in a long distance

relationship with my cousin

for two years. He has a child and

he’s still with the mother of his

child. I really love him and he says

he loves me too and wants to be

with me, but he sometimes only

texts me after a while and calls

after a few months. Do you think

I’m wasting my time?

Sis Naledi answers:

In the first place, you should

not be dating your cousin.

This has serious implications

for you and your families. It

sounds as if he is committed to

the other woman and his child.

You are setting yourself up for

disappointment. Your cousin

knows that what you are doing is

wrong. You should stop before it

gets ugly.