HELP: "My boyfriend is ashamed of me"

Anonymous from Khayelitsha writes

I have been with my

boyfriend for a year. He

has two children with different

women. We never go out or spend

time together as a couple. It’s as

if he’s ashamed to be seen with

me. I love him and want to build a

future with him and his children.

Sis Naledi answers: 

You need to understand the

type of person he is before

you make judgements or

accusations. It will help to talk

to him about how he views your

relationship and express your own

expectations about building a

family with him.