HELP: "My husband has a 7-year-old secret child"

Anonymous from Umlazi writes:

I have been married

for 18 years and have three

children. I recently found out

that my husband has a sevenyear-

old child with his relative

who thought I knew. He doesn’t

know that I know about the

child. How do I deal with this?

Sis Naledi answers: 

Keeping secrets and

inability to confront things

in a marriage is a sign of

deep seated problems. Ask him

if what you heard is true, let

him explain himself before you

conclude on hearsay.

If he really has a child with

another woman while he is

with you, that calls for you to

evaluate your marriage and ask

yourself if you want to continue

with someone who does not

value his family.