Dingaan Mokebe on the lessons he has learnt from presenting Moja Love’s Mamazala

Actor & Presenter Dingaan Mokebe (PHOTO:GALLO IMAGES)
Actor & Presenter Dingaan Mokebe (PHOTO:GALLO IMAGES)

The show explores the dynamics of in-law relationships and the challenges they bring with them.

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Speaking to Move!, Dingaan explains that the shows he has presented in the past are all aimed at helping black people in one way or another. For him, it is very important to be part of a project that helps make a difference in people’s lives.

“If you were to go back to all the shows I have done in the past; all of them are about helping people.  Shows that say, yes, we as black people have issues and problems because of our past, but we need to build each other and help each other. Who else is going to help us if we do not help ourselves?” he says.

“So, the reasons I did all the shows I did is because I was trying to do the little that I can to help.”

Mamazala on Moja Love (DStv channel 157) is the latest show where Dingaan has been doing his share to help where he can.

“They approached me, we sat down and agreed that the reason why we are going to do this show is because we want to help were there are problems,” he explains.

“We know very well that there are a lot of fights with the in-laws, Omamezala (mothers-in-law) and their daughters-in-law. So, we try our level best to come in and help where we can, and that has been very educational.”

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Apart from feeling fulfilled that he gets to make a difference in peoples lives and their relationships with their in-laws, Dingaan has learnt quite a lot from the show. He says one of his biggest lessons he’s learnt is the importance of protecting your partner.  

He explains that the show has taught him that we make mistakes and sometimes we aren’t even aware of this.

“For an example, if I am married and my wife does something that I don’t like, and I take those things and share them with my own family. One day me and my wife will be okay and forgive each other, but my family will never forgive nor forget what she did,” he says.

“So, one thing I am trying to advise people on is that, if you have issues with your husband and you know you love him and want to resolve this issue. instead of taking your disagreements to your family, rather go to his family because he is their son and they will know how to reprimand him. Same with the husband, go to your wife’s family.”

Dingaan believes that it is very important to protect your partner from your own family because your family won’t be as forgiving as you will be. This causes tension and leads to your partner being mistreated by your family.

He further explains that it is important for your partner and your family to respect one other, and vice versa. “I’m not saying people must get along if they don’t like each other. I’m just saying they must respect each other.”

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Just like any other job that has its challenges, dealing with people and helping solve their problems can get the better of you. The presenter says debriefing with his team after every episode is what has kept him sane and it allows him not to be consume by the problems people come with to the show.

“You have no choice but to deal with thing that got to you while you were at work. You see, if you were to take on everyone’s issue and took them with you, you would end up crazy and a monster. So, we try after every shoot to sit down as the team of Mamazala to debrief because whatever happens on the show doesn’t affect me alone, but everyone involved in making sure the show is successful.”

The team sit and talk about ways to deal with a difficult or heart-breaking episode. And Dingaan, who tells us he never used to believe talking helps, says he honestly thinks the best thing you can do to try and heal yourself from a hectic situation is to talk about it.

“Talking helps. You see, once you have spoken to someone about something you feel better,” he says. “I have also seen this with the people who came to Mamazala. Once we send them for therapy, once they talk, somewhere, somehow, they heal.” 

It’s the same for him and his team – voicing how they feel about an episode and making sure that whoever needs to speak to a professional gets that help is how they deal with the difficult situations they face at work