"My lesbian partner is pregnant – what do I do?"

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MY LESBIAN GIRLFRIEND HAS A BABY ON THE WAY

I’m a lesbian and I have been dating my girlfriendfor three years.I always thought we had a good relationship and that wewere happy and in love.A few months ago, she cheated on me with a guy andbecame pregnant.I found out on Facebook – she didn’t even have thedecency to tell me.I am shocked but still in love with her. What should I do? - DISAPPOINTED

DUMA MABITSELA  

Let it go and continue with your life as   this will never be a normal relationship – there are two more people involved now. That lady will never be faithful to you again. Move on, my dear, and start afresh. 

DINKY PRISCY 

As a woman, maybe she became broody. You may feel betrayed, but the truth is nothing is guaranteed in life. Forgive yourself for giving your love to someone who didn’t deserve it. Grieve and move on. 

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ZOLANI MJALI VINCE  

If you love her you will understand she wanted more. Now that she’s a mother, love her and support her. Maybe she didn’t tell you because she was scared that it would become more than just sex with the man.  

LAIMY HAINYEKO

 How can you still love someone who has been impregnated by someone else? Pick yourself up and move on  because you can’t make someone love you. Just move on and leave them to enjoy their life.  

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“It must be heart-breaking to be rejected by your girlfriend,” says Kgadi Thobejane, a clinical psychologist   from Pretoria.“Over and above being in love and attracted to each other, every relationship requires trust and open communication   as its cornerstones.  

“It appears that your girlfriend took you for granted and lived a double life, which left you feeling cheated on.Unfortunately, it seems that your girlfriend has   moved on, albeit in a distasteful manner. “All you can do currently is to mourn the loss of your   beloved girlfriend and relationship. Let you ex know how   she hurt you, but then move on.

 “This can be a long, daunting process and there are no   time specifications as to when you will finally feel healed. If you feel overwhelmed, seek the help of a counsellor or   social worker who will assist and support you until you feel emotionally grounded.”  

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