If you have ever watched Red Table Talk you know that in the show every topic is discussed as thoroughly and as conscientiously as possible. And the questions you think they wouldn't ask, they do.
The latest guest to be invited to the Red Table is Kristin Davis. As she shared her experience of the process of adoption, particularly interracial adoption, she cried as she recalled a time when her daughter experienced racism.
"I don't know how every person of colour has gotten through this," she said.
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Kristin is a mom of two adopted African-America children and she has always been vocal about being a mom to black children.
In the episode titled 'Should white people adopt black children?' Kristin shared her adoption experience with the Facebook Watch Series' hosts Jada Pinkett and Adrienne Banfield-Jones.
When Jada talked about her insecurities about white parents adopting black children being seen as 'white saviours', Kristin shared why there is no trust between the two communities saying "Why would your community trust my community with its babies? I one hundred percent understand that."
Jada pulled out an adoption questionnaire which clearly shows how the adoption system allows adoptive parents freedom to choose the ethnicity they would be most comfortable to adopt, Kristin said that she was a "little thrown off by that paper."
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"If the right children is going to come to me, why would I say no to this or no to that. It seemed strange to me, it seemed racist to be saying, 'No, no, no, no, no.' That's what it seemed to me at the time," she shared.
Questions social workers ask a prospective parent include if you've thought about how to include an African-American child's culture in your life, Kristin details.
The Red Table Talk hosts talked about how lengthy the process of adoption is, including how social workers interview parents and do background checks on them.
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